As it turns out, not so much with the rose I’m talking about today – the G-spot. The G-spot was originally described in 1950 by Dr. Ernest Grafenberg when he wrote:
“an erotic zone always could be demonstrated on the anterior wall of the vaginal along the course of the urethra.”
This hunch was later confirmed in 1981 when researchers replicated Grafenberg’s findings and named the zone after him. Ever since, women and their partners have been on the hunt for the G-spot on that anterior vaginal wall (the part of the vagina that faces a woman’s belly).
Turns out, however, that even though the majority of women believe that the G-spot exists, even if they don’t have one, we’ve all been fooled. Sort of.
A recent study published in the Journal of Sexual Medicine looked at 60-years’ worth of research on the G-spot and found no evidence for a special structure on the spot of the vagina where the G-spot is supposed to be located. According to the study’s author, Dr. Amichai Kilchevsky, “Without a doubt, a discrete anatomic entity called the G-spot does not exist.”
He goes on to say, however, that putting pressure on that general area will stimulate the clitoris, urethra, and Skene’s gland. So really, it’s still a sensitive area that feels particularly good to some women. We just can’t call it a G-spot anymore.
Names and scientific studies aside though, this revelation is a great reminder about the role that communication plays in sexual encounters and partnerships. Some women really enjoy clitoral stimulation, while others find it painful at times. Searching for the G-spot without asking your partner if it feels good, or your partner feeling like they need to feel something special in a certain area probably won’t leave you both feeling satisfied in the end.
Some questions to ask yourself and your partner might be:
- What turns you on?
- What do you find pleasurable?
- What do you want to do? What don’t you want to do?
- What are your turnoffs and what do you find unpleasurable or painful?
- How do you like to communicate when you are enjoying yourself during sex?
(Questions adapted from Go Ask Alice!)
Talk to your partner about what feels good and what doesn’t, no matter what you may call it!
To read the original study, check out: