Overcoming Loneliness

Everyone always says that college will be some of the best years of your life – you’re exposed to new people, new ideas, new ways of living. But what happens when things don’t go as planned? In a school as large as UNC, it’s easy to feel isolated and lonely. “How should I meet new people if I’m not already part of a group? How can I find people who like the same things as me?” Many of us at UNC have probably had these thoughts at one point or another – in fact, loneliness is growing on college campuses across the U.S. The important thing to know is that you’re not alone. There are lots of students at UNC who are in this situation and are looking to form meaningful connections. Step out of your comfort zone and reach out to someone – you never know if that will be the start of a beautiful friendship! Here are some tips to get started:

  • Join a Student Organization: This is a great way to meet people with similar interests! Browse Heel Life to find clubs that you’re interested in, and show up to a meeting. Chances are that you’ll have a great time doing something you love while also getting to meet new people who share your interests.
  • Join an IM Sport: Sports are a great way to meet new people – you can meet people with similar interests while having a shared activity to do in the meantime. It’s also a good way to stay healthy and get some exercise.
  • Reach out to Someone: Many people may feel fear and anxiety doing this. Putting yourself out there and reaching out to new people is not necessarily easy, but it’s a great way to start a new friendship and form a connection with someone. Try talking to someone after class, inviting someone to grab lunch, or even scheduling a study session.
  • Volunteer: Volunteering is a meaningful way to connect with others while simultaneously helping your community. Through volunteering, you can not only connect with other student volunteers who have the same passions as you, but you can also connect with the community members whom you are helping. Check out Heel Life for volunteer student organizations to get started.
  • Look into Community Activities: Your search for relationships doesn’t have to be limited to UNC – expand into the community and explore everything that it has to offer! Local book clubs, climbing gyms, and karaoke nights are great places to start to find people who share your interests.
  • Check out Social Media Groups: There are groups on social media platforms, such as Facebook groups, that are centered around particular interests or hobbies. Join one of these groups in your area to get updates on their activities and meet new people who share your interests.

Remember, if you are feeling lonely at UNC, you are not the only one. Putting yourself out there can be difficult, but you can do it! Try following these tips, and reach out to CAPS or go on the Heels Care Network if you feel like you need mental health support. We are one community here at Carolina and we are here to support each other.

Ideas for Wellness During Next Week’s Well-Being Days

One week away from two well-being days…you’re so close, Friend! Well-being days offer the opportunity to focus on your mental health and overall well-being. We recognize that well-being days might be a source of stress. You may not like that the typical rhythm of your week is disrupted, you may fear that you’re missing out on fun activities, or you might just not know what to do with the extra time. These feelings are completely normal. Ultimately, you should use the well-being days to best meet your own needs! Here are some ideas:

Take some time to calm your mind, draw inward, and think deeply about your health and well-being. Be honest with yourself – it’s not about how you should feel. Consider what feeds you, creates stress, and pushes past your comfort zone. Are these activities harming your well-being, or are they slowly getting you where you want to go? You could meditate, journal, go for a reflective walk or run – just take time to slow down and consider the realities of your situation. 

  • Sleep. Go to sleep a bit earlier and wake up when your body is ready.
  • Eat. Use your extra time to focus on eating yummy, nutrient-dense foods. Cook yourself (and your friends?) an amazing meal or gather friends at a favorite place to eat.
  • Move Your Body. Spend time doing an activity that you like. Choose something that feels just right for that day – you don’t have to push yourself hard, but take the time to do something active that you love.
  • Relax. Read something for fun. Watch a show you enjoy. Snuggle under a blanket. Do something that lets your body and mind rest and recharge. 

How can you improve your environment to better support your health and well-being for the rest of the semester?

  • Bring in more sunlight. Move your workspace as close to the window as possible. Strategically place mirrors and pull open curtains during the day.
  • Remove clutter. Get rid of what no longer serves you and keep things that bring you joy. Start small – pick one drawer to clean out today.
  • Incorporate your senses. Plants, art, photos of people or places you love, good smells, calming sounds – all of these can help you feel grounded, connected, and less stressed. 

If you have the capacity for it, the well-being days offer time time to support the people around you and strategize for broader impact.

  • Support a friend. Do you know someone who has had a tough time recently? Reach out to them to check in. Invite them to do something you both enjoy.
  • Serve others. Choosing to help others supports that individual or organization, and benefits the helper! Volunteering is an act of self-care and offers many benefits for your health including finding a sense of purpose and passion. Seek out service opportunities on your well-being days if you can.
  • Consider your communities. Use your influence for good in the spaces where you have some control. Consider how you can adjust to better offer structure, infuse flexibility, create a safe atmosphere, allow time for self-care, and advocate for systemic shifts in well-being on campus and in your groups.
  • Learn and advocate. Use some of your day learning to be a better mental health supporter and advocate. Visit the Heels Care Network and explore to better understand the mental health resources available and how you can help. Consider connecting with an organization or training to be a better advocate. 

There are lots of fun places on campus that could be a great way to do something different with your well-being days. Check out the options below (be sure to check changes to their hours for the well-being days):

  • Campus Recreation. Go rock climbing at the gym, swim laps in the Bowman-Gray Memorial pool, take a fitness class – the possibilities are endless!
  • Morehead Planetarium. Morehead offers tons of cool shows in their planetarium. Check out some of their showings about NC constellations or browse their museum.
  • Ackland Art Museum. Ackland has a beautiful collection of art that is free for the public. Take some time to explore the museum and their current exhibits.
  • Sports. Show support for the Heels and head out to a sports game during these well-being days!
  • Music Concerts: Check out the events calendar for the UNC Department of Music – music is a great way to relax while showing support for the amazing talent here at UNC. 

The well-being days are for you to meet your needs and support your community members if you have the capacity. We are in this together here at Carolina. Thank you for being a part of our community of care!

Finding Balance

At this point in the year, many of us know Carolina as a place full of things to do. Sports games? Check. Clubs, music concerts, shows? Absolutely. Homework? Unfortunately, yes. You may be asking yourself, “How can I find time for doing things I love while keeping up with classes and taking care of myself?” We know that it can be hard, but it might help to focus on balancing three things: Time, Stress and Sleep. Focusing on these three aspects of your life can help identify priorities, ensure time for self care and make space for the many things that UNC-Chapel Hill has to offer. Read on for tips!

It’s common to feel like there’s not enough time in the day to get everything done. Our responsibilities to school, friends, and family can be enjoyable, but can also become stressful. Here are some tips for prioritizing and balancing these responsibilities:

  • Block out time in your schedule for well-being activities, study sessions, and daily tasks like eating/sleeping.
  • Sit down and list all of the things you need to get done in the upcoming week. It might be helpful to assign certain tasks to specific days of the week.
  • For each item on your list, apply the following “test:” Is this something I must get done, should get done, or could complete? Assign each task to a category according to its priority.

It’s normal to feel stress in our daily lives. But when stress builds up and we don’t have ways to cope with it, we can feel exhausted. Here are some tips for coping with stress that might help the next time you are feeling overwhelmed.

  • Plan something to look forward to
  • Take a walk outside
  • Unplug from social media for one night per week
  • Write down your thoughts and feelings
  • Meditate, do yoga, move your body
  • Watch a favorite movie or TV show
  • Treat yourself to something special

At the end of the day, do whatever helps you to calm your mind and feel refreshed. If you are still struggling with stress, feel free to reach out to CAPS or look for resources on the Heels Care Network.

With everything going on in our lives, it can be easy to put sleep on the back-burner and prioritize our relationships and work. But the reality is, without sleep, it’s much harder for us to function. Our health, relationships, and work all suffer with minimal sleep, keeping us from being our best selves. Follow these tips for better sleep:

  • Set up a sleeping environment that works best for you. Many people benefit from cool, dark, quiet rooms. You can use things like blackout curtains or a white noise machine if that is helpful.
  • Set consistent wake-up times and bedtimes. This helps your body regulate its natural sleep cycles and will help you feel energized and ready for the day.
  • Try to avoid stressful activities immediately before bed. Having a relaxing routine, such as reading a favorite book or taking a hot shower right before bed can help calm your mind.
  • Prioritize sleep. At the end of the day, there will always be more things to do. Making sleep a priority will help you get the amount of rest that your body needs – over time, you will learn to complete your work around your sleep schedule. After all, the most important thing is taking care of yourself.

Finding Balance

At this point in the year, many of us know Carolina as a place full of things to do. Sports games? Check. Clubs, music concerts, shows? Absolutely. Homework? Unfortunately, yes. You may be asking yourself, “How can I find time for doing things I love while keeping up with classes and taking care of myself?” We know that it can be hard, but it might help to focus on balancing three things: Time, Stress and Sleep. Focusing on these three aspects of your life can help identify priorities, ensure time for self care and make space for the many things that UNC-Chapel Hill has to offer. Read on for tips!

Find Time

It’s common to feel like there’s not enough time in the day to get everything done. Our responsibilities to school, friends, and family can be enjoyable, but can also become stressful. Here are some tips for prioritizing and balancing these responsibilities:

  • Block out time in your schedule for well-being activities, study sessions, and daily tasks like eating/sleeping.
  • Sit down and list all of the things you need to get done in the upcoming week. It might be helpful to assign certain tasks to specific days of the week.
  • For each item on your list, apply the following “test:” Is this something I must get done, should get done, or could complete? Assign each task to a category according to its priority.

Manage Stress

It’s normal to feel stress in our daily lives. But when stress builds up and we don’t have ways to cope with it, we can feel exhausted. Here are some tips for coping with stress that might help the next time you are feeling overwhelmed.

  • Plan something to look forward to
  • Take a walk outside
  • Unplug from social media for one night per week
  • Write down your thoughts and feelings
  • Meditate, do yoga, move your body
  • Watch a favorite movie or TV show
  • Treat yourself to something special

At the end of the day, do whatever helps you to calm your mind and feel refreshed. If you are still struggling with stress, feel free to reach out to CAPS or look for resources on the Heels Care Network.

Prioritize Sleep

With everything going on in our lives, it can be easy to put sleep on the back-burner and prioritize our relationships and work. But the reality is, without sleep, it’s much harder for us to function. Our health, relationships, and work all suffer with minimal sleep, keeping us from being our best selves. Follow these tips for better sleep:

  • Set up a sleeping environment that works best for you. Many people benefit from cool, dark, quiet rooms. You can use things like blackout curtains or a white noise machine if that is helpful.
  • Set consistent wake-up times and bedtimes. This helps your body regulate its natural sleep cycles and will help you feel energized and ready for the day.
  • Try to avoid stressful activities immediately before bed. Having a relaxing routine, such as reading a favorite book or taking a hot shower right before bed can help calm your mind.
  • Prioritize sleep. At the end of the day, there will always be more things to do. Making sleep a priority will help you get the amount of rest that your body needs – over time, you will learn to complete your work around your sleep schedule. After all, the most important thing is taking care of yourself.

Wellness Resources on Campus

Hey Tar Heel! 🐏 Did you know that your campus fees cover many well-being services at Carolina? It’s true – you have access to lots of resources focused on supporting your health care, mental health, and overall wellness! As you focus on your needs this semester, reach out to these services and see how they can support you.

Campus HealthCampus Health offers a variety of medical services to all students, including immunizations, gynecological care, gender affirming care, dental care and more. All students, graduate students, postdocs, and partners/spouses who pay the Campus Health fee (typically included in your student fees) are eligible.

Counseling and Psychological Services (CAPS): CAPS is a confidential service focused on providing mental health support. Services include individual and group therapy, access to embedded counselors, medication management, and referral coordination. CAPS is available to all students, graduate students, postdocs and partners/spouses who have paid the Campus Health fee (typically included in student fees).

Campus Health Pharmacy and Student Stores PharmacyThese two pharmacies are available for all your medication needs. The pharmacies can fill new prescriptions, refill ongoing medications, provide vaccines and give access to over-the-counter medications. Check out the International Travel Clinic for Carolina students who are traveling globally, and the OTC vending machines in Rams Head and the Carolina Union.

Student WellnessStudent Wellness offers a variety of resources focused on promoting well-being. This includes webinars on different dimensions of well-being, an alcohol and substance use resource center, and sexual health resources. Student Wellness also offers wellness coaching – a free service available to all students, graduate students, and post-docs where coaches work with students to meet their wellness goals.

Heels Care Network: This collection of mental health and wellness resources is designed to support everyone on campus, and includes information on finding support groups, learning strategies for promoting mental health, connecting with trainings or advocacy organizations, and finding wellness events on campus.

Campus RecreationCampus Rec offers a wide variety of fun activities and facilities to promote your physical health including several gyms, swimming pools, outdoor courts/fields, and climbing walls. Every student receives access to Campus Recreation through their student fees, meaning that there is no extra cost to using Campus Rec’s facilities or equipment, participating in fitness classes, or playing intramural sports. Be sure to check them out – there’s something for everyone!

Spring Wellness Guide

As we start this new semester, set yourself up for success. You’ll quickly have lots of things on your plate, and it’s easy to feel overwhelmed and forget to make time for yourself. Remember – you don’t have to do everything! Keep your physical health, mental health, and well-being at the top of your priority list with these strategies:Schedule time for physical activity, healthy eating, and relaxation. If you schedule it into your day now, you’re less likely to skip it later. Find time for social support too. You could join an intramural or club team, or schedule fun fitness activities with friends. Use an app or planner to help.

Find and explore spaces to help you stay healthy like Campus RecDining Services, and Campus Health. You are welcome to visit these spaces and look around. Don’t be afraid to just explore the campus a bit this week while you’re reconnecting. 

Connect to a primary care provider and pharmacy in the area. You’ve already paid for services at Campus Health through tuition and fees, so you can come to see a provider there at no further cost to you. Visit one of the two on-campus pharmacies – Campus Health Pharmacy or Student Stores Pharmacy to transfer prescriptions and get over-the-counter items you need. Over-the-counter pharmacy items are also available in the Healthy Heels 2 Go vending machines in the Carolina Union and Rams Head Recreation.

Mental health matters! The Heels Care Network website offers trainings and resources to help you help your friends and yourself with mental health – including a live Peer Chat staffed by LSN

Seek professional help as soon as you start to feel overwhelmed. Initial visits to Counseling and Psychological Services are available Monday – Friday from 9 am-12 pm and 1-4 pm. These services have already been paid for in tuition and fees.

Get involved in campus organizations that interest you. Search for what fits you using Heel Life. Some of your soon-to-be lifelong friends are among the people in student organizations on campus. 

Find support academically. Yes, it’s challenging. Yes, you can do it. Yes, you have help. This handout on How to Succeed at Carolina can help you plan for the best possible start to your new year. 
We know you want to stay healthy at Carolina, and we are here to help! Reach out if you have questions @UNCHealthyHeels or healthyheels@unc.edu.

Sustaining Healthy Habits this Semester

Setting goals for health doesn’t have to stop at resolutions. As we enter this new semester, take some time to reflect on what worked well for you last semester, and which new habits you would like to infuse in your life. Do you want to build in more time for sleep? Do you want to focus on a healthier and happier academic-life balance? Whatever it is, following these simple tips can help you create and maintain successful habits:

Make it matter: Choose resolutions that truly motivate you. Adding fun aspects to your habits, like listening to an audiobook while doing them or involving friends, can also help with motivation!
Make the behavior small: Break down overarching goals into daily or weekly actions.
Allow time for each habit: It takes about four weeks for a new behavior to become a tentative habit, so focus on one resolution per month. Habits form faster when done regularly, so schedule daily time for them!
Reframe “I don’t have time”: Prioritize your goals in your daily planner and make them a top focus.
Be gentle: Give yourself grace and start again if you miss a day. Enjoy the journey…every small change is getting you closer to reaching your goal!

Remember that changing habits is a gradual process. Be patient with yourself and as the semester begins to get busy, and try to take time each day or week to reflect on how far you have come. For more tips on creating and sustaining new habits, check out the Learning Center’s website.

You got this!

Benefits of Reading Fiction: A Healthy Outlet Besides Academia

Reading fiction goes beyond a favorite pastime. It serves as a healthy outlet for emotional expression and a productive way to cope with the academic stress that college students face in the classroom and outside of it.

Keeps your mind active

Reading requires your brain to work, unlike passive hobbies like watching television. Reading:

Improves sleep quality

Reading fiction aids a good night’s sleep. Establishing a pre-sleep routine, like reading, signals to your body that it’s time to wind down and go to bed. It helps you disconnect from the stress and worries of your day. Reading a physical book or an e-reader that doesn’t emit blue light is best because blue light can interfere with your sleep.

Explores new and diverse perspectives

With each book, you are exposed to different places, times, and characters Fiction presents stories from diverse perspectives, allows readers to emotionally connect with characters, often explores unique cultural settings, and involves layered characters that face ethical and moral dilemmas. Thus, reading helps you develop empathy, fosters greater cultural awareness, and reduces feelings of isolation.

Inspires new ideas and stimulates your imagination

Fiction gets readers to think beyond the confines of their lived experiences, sparking creativity, igniting new thoughts, and inspiring them to think differently. Whether you need a new idea for a project, a fresh approach to a problem, or a unique perspective on life, fiction has the potential to fuel your imagination.

Provides a sense of accomplishment and supports growth

Reading fiction offers a relaxing experience because it does not come with the intensity of exam prep. In addition, completing a novel provides a sense of accomplishment and broadens your comprehensive skills. When you finish a book, your understanding and knowledge of various subjects expand, contributing to your personal, academic, and intellectual growth. You may find yourself better engaged with your classes and study materials.

Reading fiction transcends a hobby and keeps your mind sharp, supports intellectual growth, improves sleep, develops one’s social connectedness, and provides a sense of satisfaction. Pick up a novel today and embark on a new adventure.

Paula Omokhomion, a public health senior with a minor in creative writing, shares her insights on the benefits of reading fiction. Paula is not only an avid reader but also a novelist. You can get a free copy of her novel on Inkitt.

Healthy Heels Communication Internship for Spring 2023

Position Description:                                                                                                      

UNC Healthy Heels seeks a multimedia communication intern to join a cohort of students supporting Healthy Heels communication efforts. Healthy Heels is a collaboration between Campus Health, CAPS, Student Wellness, and the Heels Care Network and operates a variety of online platforms including Instagram, Threads, TikTok, Twitter, YouTube, email newsletter, this blog, and websites. Interns help increase engagement and following on these platforms.

Interns should be able to work independently with minimal supervision, exercise strong judgement, take initiative, and be able to work collaboratively on projects.

The multimedia intern will script, film, and edit videos and photographs to support weekly TikTok/Reels/YouTube shorts about health and well-being at Carolina. Interns are supervised by the Special Projects and Communication Manager for Health and Well-being.

Characteristic Duties and Responsibilities:

  • Learns Healthy Heels mission, goals, objectives and services
  • Supports strategic social media strategy on multiple channels including post planning, design and editing
  • Competent in developing social media and website posts on variety of platforms with the support of Canva and/or Adobe Creative Suite
  • Facilitates opportunities to increase reach of Healthy Heels communication using digital and in-person initiatives and outreach
  • Effectively engages and collaborates with diverse student populations and staff to deliver inclusive, culturally competent communication to students
  • Serves as representative of Healthy Heels, maintaining a professional and creative digital and in-person presence
  • Serves on Marketing and Health Education committee for Campus Health (meets via zoom on the first Thursday of every other month at 8:15 am)
  • Assumes other duties and responsibilities as needed

Minimum Qualifications:

  • Ability to work 10 hours per week, including occasional weekend and evening hours
  • Ability to work through Spring 2024, at minimum
  • Competent in Adobe Creative Suite and Canva, or willingness to learn
  • Willingness to learn new technologies, skillsets, and information
  • Desire to support the health, well-being, and mental health of UNC-Chapel Hill students

Compensation:  $16 per hour

Applications will be accepted on a rolling basis until position has been filled; review of applications will begin immediately. To apply, please visit UNC JobX if you have work study award. If you do not have a work study award, please email healthyheels@unc.edu with a pdf file attached that includes

  • a brief cover letter expressing
    • which role you are most interested in (events, multimedia, or digital communication)
    • what interests you and how you’re a good fit for the position
  • your resume, and
  • examples of (or links to) your communication work.

For more information:

The University of North Carolina is an Equal Opportunity Employer. 

Supporting Each Other Through LDOC and Finals

These next few weeks can be a lot with the last day of class on Wednesday and finals beginning on Friday. Let’s get through this together! You can be the best kind of friend during finals and beyond.

Listen.

Feeling genuinely heard and accepted is one of our most important needs, and it doesn’t go away during finals. Providing empathy and acceptance is one of the most soothing things we can do for each other. Give people your full attention, listen non-judgmentally, reflect feelings, and be curious. Determine if your friend wants to be heard, helped or hugged, and then meet those needs.

Change the Narrative

How you handle the question “How are you doing?” matters. It’s important to be honest about your feelings, but you can also steer the conversation towards positive actions. Instead of a generic response, share how you’ve been working hard or how you’re taking care of yourself. You can then extend the conversation by asking your friend about their self-care practices. This approach contributes to fostering a culture of care that values both effort and well-being.

Support each other’s work.

We can help each other learn. Here are some ideas – you can find more on the Learning Center website.

  • Use study groups to amplify learning.
  • Teach each other the info you’ve learned.
  • Quiz each other on info you’ll need to know.
  • Proofread each other’s essays.
  • Hold each other accountable to study goals.
  • Walk together to study locations.
  • Invite each other for healthy study breaks.

Affirm each other.

Support those around you through stressful times. Here are some healthy ways to offer help:

  • Cook each other food.
  • Move your body together.
  • When you run errands, check to see if anyone needs anything while you go out.
  • Create environments that help you study and connect.
  • Find healthy ways to celebrate everyone’s efforts this semester.
  • Be authentic with each other.
  • Do something together that you enjoyed as kids.
  • Be food inclusive and body-positive.
  • Encourage sleep.
  • Spend time together outside.

We’ve all experienced various ways of being supported. Tell us how you care for friends or what they have done for you on our Instagram story.