When it comes to forging those deep, meaningful connections, it’s easy to wonder how we got there with our closest pals from the past. But don’t fret, Friend, because crafting new bonds doesn’t have to be a mysterious art. In fact, there are some simple strategies you can use right now to get closer to the people around you.
- Trust-Building: Start by building trust. Keep your promises, be reliable, and show consistency in your actions. Communication is key, and so is respecting each other’s boundaries. Trust forms the bedrock of any close relationship, so create an environment where you both can count on each other.
- Open Communication: Getting closer often means getting real. Honest, non-judgmental, and open communication is the name of the game. Share your thoughts, feelings, and experiences and see how they respond. Don’t forget to ask about their thoughts and feelings, and actively listen to their perspective.
- Quality Listening: Sometimes, just being heard can bring you closer. Practice empathetic and attentive listening. Make sure you create a safe space for everyone to share without judgment or interruptions. Active listening can be a game-changer.
- Quality Time: Dedicate quality time to each other, free from distractions. Engage in activities you both enjoy and that promote connection. Remember, spending time together is a valid reason to block out your schedule.
- Vulnerability: Vulnerability can be your secret weapon. Share your fears, insecurities, and dreams with them, and encourage them to do the same. When both of you can be authentic and open, you’ll feel closer and more connected.
- Affection and Appreciation: Show your affection and appreciation regularly. Little acts of kindness – hugs, compliments, or sharing your favorite memes – can go a long way. Be each other’s comfort during tough times.
- Conflict Resolution: Conflicts are natural, so it’s important to learn how to resolve them healthily. Address disagreements constructively, with respect and empathy. Ensure that everyone’s voice is heard and considered during these times.
- Shared Goals and Values: Find common ground in your goals, values, and aspirations. Shared values help shape your relationship, create unity, and give you a sense of purpose.
- Individual Growth: Support each other’s personal growth and self-discovery. Encourage passions and interests, and celebrate achievements. Personal growth can lead to a deeper connection in any relationship.
By engaging in these strategies, you’ll find that closeness and a sense of belonging naturally follow. It’s the ongoing exchange of emotions, trust, and vulnerability that strengthens your connection. Take the time to build strong relationships while here at Carolina, which will everyone be more successful, even long after our time on campus comes to a close.
We all play a role in cultivating Carolina culture and creating a space where consent is practiced daily. This month there are a series of fun opportunities to learn more about consent culture and show your support for Sexual Assault Awareness Month. 
Other than Salt-n-Pepa, does anybody actually talk openly and honestly about sex? Turns out the answer is YES for Carolina students! 91% of UNC-Chapel Hill first years say they’d communicate with a partner about what they want in a sexual situation. Now, we know that all first- years are not the same; different groups of students have different attitudes and beliefs. However, interestingly enough this statistic doesn’t change a whole lot across different gender identities, races, and sexual orientations (ranges from 88%-93%).
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